Whats Your Style?

Today I was asked by a friend of mine ...

"What are you doing at the moment?"

Essentially he meant "what's your style?" or "what's your method?" This is something that often comes up, especially when talking to guys that go out meeting women infrequently or who are relatively new to this. It is something I have struggled with myself, I started out very linear and rigid. Do step 1, ok, now step 2, now step 3 and so on and so on. I then tipped the scales to the other end and did the opposite; 100% improv, all off the top of head. I thought this was the answer, however I was stilled concerned with fitting into a box and conforming to a style.

You see there seems to be certain trends that emerge, just like anything else. People jump on the band wagon until something new comes along and then do the same with that trend. It's no different here, one minute people are labelling their style 'canned' 'indirect' 'natural' 'direct' 'shock n awe'. But it's not the actual effectiveness or practicality they argue about, but the label it's self.

Recently I've been coming from the frame of I don't really care what style it is I'm running other than a) it's consistent at getting results I want and b) it's me. My style is 'me'.

As Bruce Lee points out you must honestly express yourself, with out lying to yourself (ego).

"Styles tend not to only separate men - because they have their own doctrines and then the doctrines became the gospel truth that you cannot change. But if you do not have a style, if you say: Well here I am as a human being, how can I express myself totally and completely? Now, that way you won't create a style, because style is a crystallisation. That way, it's a process of continuing growth"

This sums up my mentality perfectly, I just go out and do me, express myself and then learn from what I do wrong and keep what works. Some people don't like that as they like it to be all laid out for them, they see that as a quicker route, but one still has to put in the work.

Ultimately I guess there is a 'Jeet Kune Do' of 'game', which my journey has eventually led me to. One could argue that 'naturals' run this type of game all the time, they don't have a 'method' or a 'system' they just go out and do them. You could even go as far as to say the age old advice of 'just be yourself' is valid to some degree. Anyway this is all thoughts in progress... so I shall leave you with another quote.

"Jeet Kune Do favours formlessness so that it can assume all forms and since Jeet Kune Do has no style, it can fit in with all styles. As a result, Jeet Kune Do utilises all ways and is bound by none and, likewise, uses any techniques which serve it's end"