Just Close!

This is something I've been thinking about for a while now and it just so happened to emerge again recently after having a discussion with a friend of mine.

Two words.... 'Just Close'. So simple but often we try and over complicate it. My sticking point at the moment is pretty much handling logistics. I can get to making out with a girl pretty consistently however after that I usually loose my head or loose it in some other manner. At this point all I have to do is handle logistics. For some time I was too focused on getting the make out that when I got it, it became 'game over'.

Now I realise I'm in the same position as before, but instead of not going for the make out I'm not going for the extraction or isolation.

Sometimes we get too concerned with the little bits, when infact the simplest advice is necessary 'just close'. Ok you came up with a funny opener, did you close... no? close!... Ok, you made the girls laugh or kept them entertained, did you close... no? JUST CLOSE!

A lot of the things we do really are pointless unless you end up closing, it doesn't matter if you opened with some highly original and funny if don't close, 'Hi' could have served the exact same purpose.

Only today I heard somebody waxing lyrical about another guy but when I asked 'Did he close?' the response was no. See it's all well and good hearing cool new shit and funny stories but I want to be meeting guys with that closer mentality.

My wing's friend who is now one of my friends is a pretty decent natural, his game is boring to watch. In fact you could sit there and listen to him and barely get any noticeable 'verbal' game. But this dude gets laid consistently, he is a closer, he attracts women because his internals are correct. He says something and people do it, he goes some where and people follow. This is the sort of guy you want to be hanging with; a sex worthy guy, because that closer mentality is the difference between knowing the path and walking it.

P.S you don't want to be that chode in the picture standing there watching his mate hook up, remember folks JUST CLOSE!

Whats Your Style?

Today I was asked by a friend of mine ...

"What are you doing at the moment?"

Essentially he meant "what's your style?" or "what's your method?" This is something that often comes up, especially when talking to guys that go out meeting women infrequently or who are relatively new to this. It is something I have struggled with myself, I started out very linear and rigid. Do step 1, ok, now step 2, now step 3 and so on and so on. I then tipped the scales to the other end and did the opposite; 100% improv, all off the top of head. I thought this was the answer, however I was stilled concerned with fitting into a box and conforming to a style.

You see there seems to be certain trends that emerge, just like anything else. People jump on the band wagon until something new comes along and then do the same with that trend. It's no different here, one minute people are labelling their style 'canned' 'indirect' 'natural' 'direct' 'shock n awe'. But it's not the actual effectiveness or practicality they argue about, but the label it's self.

Recently I've been coming from the frame of I don't really care what style it is I'm running other than a) it's consistent at getting results I want and b) it's me. My style is 'me'.

As Bruce Lee points out you must honestly express yourself, with out lying to yourself (ego).

"Styles tend not to only separate men - because they have their own doctrines and then the doctrines became the gospel truth that you cannot change. But if you do not have a style, if you say: Well here I am as a human being, how can I express myself totally and completely? Now, that way you won't create a style, because style is a crystallisation. That way, it's a process of continuing growth"

This sums up my mentality perfectly, I just go out and do me, express myself and then learn from what I do wrong and keep what works. Some people don't like that as they like it to be all laid out for them, they see that as a quicker route, but one still has to put in the work.

Ultimately I guess there is a 'Jeet Kune Do' of 'game', which my journey has eventually led me to. One could argue that 'naturals' run this type of game all the time, they don't have a 'method' or a 'system' they just go out and do them. You could even go as far as to say the age old advice of 'just be yourself' is valid to some degree. Anyway this is all thoughts in progress... so I shall leave you with another quote.

"Jeet Kune Do favours formlessness so that it can assume all forms and since Jeet Kune Do has no style, it can fit in with all styles. As a result, Jeet Kune Do utilises all ways and is bound by none and, likewise, uses any techniques which serve it's end"

The Place I Call Home

Sometimes you have to push yourself, you have to create a habit
until that habit becomes a part of you.

I've been going out and meeting women now 3-4 times a week for some while now. If a week goes by and I've not been out it seems odd. Last night, for the first time I almost gave it a miss. But that guilty feeling it leaves when I contemplate it forced me to change my mind. See I knew I'd have been cheating myself and even if I went out for 30 minutes and spoke to one person it would have been movement in the right
direction.

And so out me and my trusty accomplice went... It was a fun and merry evening. Many a buttock was slapped and caressed, many a girl merry with the joy the festive season brings.

One girl who was visiting from Bradford seemed rather into me, I remember leaving and discussing how I easily could have taken it further rather than leaving it with a kiss.

Sometimes I find myself contending between my standards and logistics. See, we were debating about our living conditions (both still live at home). Now I pointed out that if I had my own apartment, preferably city centre I would have gone full out and gone for the extraction. However, it seems unless the girl is above average, looks wise, then I won't make the effort with the less than convenient logistics.

This is something I need to ponder and possibly reconsider. If I cannot make the effort with an average girl, when I want to 'make it happen' will I fall flat on my face?

A New Beginning...

Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome...

To the daily journal that details the life of an aspiring 'playboy'. A 'player', 'casanova', 'pua' 'ladies man' or which ever synonym you choose.

But ultimately... the daily journal of a 'man'.


"Why is it that when I see a woman in a short skirt my head turns?
Even if I'm not attracted to her when I see her face... it's like... I'm
hard wired to respond to that shit..."