F.E.A.R

I learnt a few things yesterday and came to realise them today after watching the video above. I've always been a big fan of Michael Jordan, I played a lot of basketball when I was younger so I've always had a love for the 'game' so to speak. But it was not until a friend recommended Jordan's book Driven from Within that I really started joining the dots between success in his game to success in this game. Driven from Within is an essential read, there is no doubt about it, everything that is written in there is gold. You can take his attitude and work ethic and apply it to anything and you will get results.

I stumbled upon this video earlier this morning and after watching it a few times I thought about a recent RSD newsletter I had read and the random phone calls I had been making the day before. Let me explain...

I recently received the book 'the rules of the game' for christmas, so I decided to participate in the stylelife challenge that takes up the first half of the book. It's something I do on my lunch breaks when I'm at work, even the most basic stuff is still worth doing. In the third mission you are required to ring up random strangers until you get some movie recommendations. So after about 40 calls and 2 escorts later I finally got a recommendation. However, I noticed that at the start of the task I was feeling quite nervous, in the same way when I'm out before I approach for the first time I'm feeling nervous. By the time I had made 20 calls I did not care any more, by this point I had still not received a recommendation so I decided to call an escort for one, just for shits and giggles.

After the exercise I realised that the process of phoning complete strangers was no different to approaching them. You start off nervous, you do a few approaches, get warmed up and then before you know it you're in the zone.

So how does the RSD newsletter come in to play? Well, earlier on Saturday I had been reading the ones I had missed. One particular letter told the story of jeffy's cat going missing. He was afraid she would not make it as she was a lazy cat, but to his surprise the cat had been hiding at his neighbours. When he told his neighbour about his concerns that his cat may have not been able to fend for it's self and hunt for food, he found out that the cat had come into it's own and actually caught a few birds. The point of the story was that even though his cat had become domesticated, lazy and idle, it was still hard wired to hunt. Just as we are hard wired to approach women, men have been seducing women for thousands of years, but society has made us become lazy. However, that ability is still hard wired, it is in our genes, as Jeffy pointed out.

Going back to the video, like Mike we all get nervous at the beginning of the night but once we've popped those first few sets; it's show time! MJ goes back to his routine, back to what he practised every day, he has complete confidence in what he does on the court. This is the same when approaching women, if you are out there regularly, you have done it thousands of times, it is no different. Even if you have never approached before, remember you're hard wired to do this. This alone should give you the confidence to be more creative, try new things and step up, night after night. Once you have those warm up approaches under your belt you know things will just start happening, you do not need to think, things become natural. But it is crucial you start talking to people early other wise you won't find that rhythm and you'll still have those pre game nerves.