Holding Hands

I Remember back when I must have been about 17/18 I really liked this girl and was in a bit of a conundrum about it. I sought the advice of a female friend of mine, I cannot remember exactly what we discussed but I remember one thing vividly. She said to me

"If you feel like holding her hand, hold her hand.... if you feel like kissing her, kiss her"

I cannot exactly remember what I actually did about the situation, but I know it wasn't the advice I was given. Infact I probably dismissed it, until now...I've already established that on this journey the goal is not to learn more information but to unlearn. However, I constantly see others questing for the next hit of PU technology. These guys are master marketers constantly bombarding us with new stuff, I'm not immune to it, I still get enticed on the odd occasion and the allure of something new and exciting is what keeps guys going back for more. Not only that but the world that surrounds the 'community' is glamourised and distorted. I'll give you an example by what I mean by this.

In the Jeffy Show, he talks about 'chess club girl' and how she had all these guys surrounding her and after her, he talks about how she is was a 10. All fine and dandy? Well... apparantly pictures appeared on the internet of 'chess club girl' and community chodes started bitching about how she wasn't that hot etc etc. The actual fact is (I've not seen the pictures) 'chess club' was probably a normal girl, most attractive girls do have guys after them. But the community portrays certain stories in certain ways that every single girl these dudes get with is a supermodel. Now she may well have been a 10, and this is the key thing, she may have been jeffy's '10'. The problem that occurs now is that guys are scared to 'like' a girl because they're too worried about what the 'community' views as a '10' and what their fellow wings view as a '10'. Waiting for the next best thing, afraid to commit. The reality is you should go for your '10' nobody elses. 

Doing what you want to do

This is where the holding hands thing comes into it. Really one of the fundemental principles you have to take on and be consistent with is, Am I doing what I want to do? Whether that be holding a girls hand, kissing her, regardless of what others think around you. When you consistently do this people start to take notice and coupled with honesty you have all you need for successful seduction. Its often the most simple things that are the hardest to do, being truely honest, to oneself and to another person about what you want can be harder than one may think. But once mastered honesty is one powerful tool. This stretches out to everything you do, I often see guys copying tactics to get ' in state' but these things they do leave them looking like a clown, I'm sure this is not really them acting honestly with themselves, they're doing it hoping to 'get in state' as opposed to doing what they really want to do. The result is they often are perceived as slightly 'weird' by the girls and have a tendency to creep them out. Where as getting in state can be achieved in other ways that are aligned with who they really are as opposed to what they 'think' they should be doing. 

It can be quite frustrating sometimes when you see other people doing what you used to do, especially since you know a better way. However, they quite often cannot understand your way and if they're still relatively new, have to go through the process of learning it for themselves. The reason it frustrates me could be down to the shadowself, however that is an entirely different post I shall cover later...